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Unraveling the Silent Dialogue of Pain and Passion
When people talk about trauma, the conversation often steers towards its emotional or physical aftermath. However, there’s another facet we rarely discuss: how trauma can impact our sexual desires, our libido. It’s like a ripple in the water; the initial splash might be over, but the waves keep affecting distant shores.
Think of the mind as a big interconnected web. When one string is pulled or strained, the whole web feels it. Trauma, be it emotional or physical, tugs hard. And guess what? Our libido, our innate sexual drive, is a part of this intricate web.
One might wonder, why does this matter? Well, because intimate connections and our desires are at the core of human experience. When these desires change or diminish, it alters our relationship with ourselves and others.
Sigmund Freud, the father of psychoanalysis, believed that our sexual desires were central to our psyche.
He said, “Sexual love is undoubtedly one of the chief things in life.”
And while not everything Freud said should be taken as gospel, he was onto something here. Our intimacy, our libido, is a crucial part of who we are. When trauma messes with it, we need to pay attention.
